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From: Jessica Yee <jessica_j_yee at hotmail.com>
Date: 10 February 2010 23:47
Subject: [YouthforGenderEquality] Truth about sex: 60% of young men, teen boys lie about it
To: Youth Gender Equality <youthforgenderequality at yahoogroups.com>


Truth about sex: 60% of young men, teen boys lie about it

By Sharon Jayson, USA TODAY

Teenage boys and young men may talk a lot about sex, but often the only ones listening are their peers.
Now, an online survey of 1,200 guys ages 15 to 22 gives them a clear voice.
And the girls are listening.
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"Everybody thinks they just want to have sex — that it's all about getting it on," says Ann Shoket, editor in chief of Seventeen magazine, which commissioned the survey in partnership with the
non-profit National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy
for the magazine's March issue, out next week.
"They're not going to turn down some great hot
hookup," Shoket says. "But at the same time, they're looking for some
Although the magazine's focus was on sexual
respect, the online survey by TRU, a Chicago-based youth market
research company, asked 42 questions about sex and relationships,
including attitudes and sexual history. Of the 1,200 teen and young
adult males who completed the survey in November, 300 each were ages
15-16, 17-18, 19-20 and 21-22.
Among the findings:
•45% said they were virgins.
•60% said they had lied about something related
to sex; 30% lied about how far they have gone; 24% lied about their
number of sexual partners; and 23% claimed not to be a virgin when they
•57% of sexually active respondents said they had had unprotected sex.
•78% agreed there was "way too much pressure" from society to have sex.
"People watch shows like Jersey Shore and Real World or listen to music that makes it a big deal. People are surrounded by
it," says Jake Helgenberg, 17, a high school junior from Paoli, Pa.,
who is studying ballet in New York City and was among the survey
Keenan Cooks, 19, of Boston, a sophomore
studying communication arts at Marymount Manhattan College in New York
City, also participated in the survey. He says guys lie about sex "to
appear like they're the man — they have some type of clout and they're
a player."
They may not be as experienced as they suggest,
and, "if they are, they have to stretch it," he says. "They'll say
'experienced' to a female but not how many they've had to make her
think she's special."
Other survey findings:
•51% said having sex before marriage was acceptable in their family.
•53% said they had had a conversation with a parent about preventing pregnancy.
•66% said they could be happy in a serious relationship that didn't include sex.
Despite discussion of hookups, friends "with
benefits" and other sexual openness, the survey found a double standard
for guys and girls: 53% of guys said having lots of hookups makes them
popular, but 71% said it makes girls less popular.
"Girl can't do what a guy does and be thought of the same way," Cooks says.

Jessica Yee
Executive Director, The Native Youth Sexual Health Network
Chair, National Aboriginal Youth Council, Canadian Aboriginal AIDS Network
jessica.j.yee at gmail.com
jyee at nativeyouthsexualhealth.com



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